Co-Parenting Doesn't Mean You Like Your Ex, It Means You Love Your Child More...
Wow... So I have seen this quote on my timeline this week two times. After the second time of seeing the post, I decided to share it with my timeline because I felt that maybe I wasn't the only one that needed to see it. Am I the only one who feels like sometimes when something double backs you should share it? But of course, there is no one size fits all guide to co-parenting and it looks different for every person.
This week was tough with my child's co-parent, we could not for the life of us get on one accord. Although we both have set schedules and for the most part open communication this week was TOUGH. I found myself very frustrated and getting out of character so after about the third day of frustration, I decided to finally just talk and release it all. Truly having a transparent conversation with my child's co-parent about how I felt. Well... it didn't go as quite as planned but I learned a few things about our sit down that I would like to share with you all in hopes it will help you through the rough patches.
Remember the CHILD COMES FIRST!
-Although this is not the easiest thing to always remember at times of high frustration bring yourself back by remembering your child loves both of his/her parents. So try to show grace...
Remain in a Calm State, Try Not to Raise Your Voice
Now we all know once someone takes a "tone" with us, we are no longer listening. Oftentimes, once your tone is established the outcome of the conversation is established as well. Try your best to have respect for each other
Related Link: Keep Calm and Parent On
Follow My Mom's Number One Rule
If you don't have anything nice to say, keep it to yourself. This will save you a headache and unnecessary stress on your end. If it is something that is not directly affecting your child let your co-parent be and don't sweat the little things. Dedicate that energy to something else that has a positive impact on your life.
Related Link: Tips to Raise a Child with A Toxic Parent
Make a List
Why is it important for you to make a list? It is important for you to be able to identify the things that you think will improve your co-parenting relationship. Especially if you are going through a rough patch because the key to having a healthy relationship, is open communication. So you have to be able to give each other constructive criticism and as long it is done in the right setting with the right tone each person should be able to receive it. Depending on the type of relationship this can be done in person or over the phone, but it is important to have the conversation and be transparent.
Selfcare: Take Care of You
Unplug for a while, talk to someone you trust, or treat yourself to something special. No matter what that looks like do something for you! Be kind to yourself. Accept that you may make mistakes, and that’s OK. Take them as a learning opportunity and move on.
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